Monday, April 30, 2018

April 30th, 2018 A Freaky Thing If You Ask Me

April 30th, 2018 A Freaky Thing If You Ask Me

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

It was a long and at times stressful day. I reached for the rails of my plan and made it through one more day! Had I not reached for my rails, I could have ended up face first in a take-out pizza. You see...

A new convenience store opened a half-mile from my apartment. It's a place that is widely acclaimed for their takeout pizza. Their radio commercial makes it the main focus--and that's a great idea, I mean, I understand broadcast marketing after being in this business for thirty years. The radio commercials don't bother me. Even today, my voice is on Dominos commercials around here--it's my job! I know, I know--it does seem strange if you know me really really well. But most people don't and a radio commercial isn't about me, it's about the product. I've had several conversations in the last few days with people mentioning this new amazing source for pizza. Apparently, that is more powerful to me--hearing over and over how good it is from people I know personally--and knowing full well it isn't on my food plan--not today and not any of my tomorrows if I plan to remain well. And that works for me.

I'll trade all the take-out pizza in the world for the benefits of maintaining a daily plan practice that supports a healthy body weight. I'm getting the best end of the deal. And occasionally, I still eat pizza--the requirement is: It must fit within my food plan. And usually, that means I make it at home.

Tonight, I made pita pizzas for dinner with Joseph's flax-oat bran-whole wheat pitas, refined sugar-free tomato basil, lean ground beef, red onions, and shredded mozzarella. It was fantastic!!!


What's interesting is this: When I sat down to write tonight's blog, I went back in time a year to April 30th, 2017, just to see what I was up to one year ago today. What did I find??? A post that goes in-depth on my personal pizza issues.

Excerpt from April 30th, 2017:
I had fun with dinner tonight. I made pita pizzas. Let me be clear--pizza, like the kind from a pizza place, is certainly on my list of trigger foods. I do not, under any circumstances, eat take-out pizza, not because there's something wrong with it--rather, it's my brain--If I eat a slice, my brain wants 8 more. That's how I'm wired. It just is. And that's precisely why I must make my plan important each day--otherwise, I know what happens--I've lived what happens when I don't make a daily plan important.

Is it the refined sugar in the crust and sauce? Is it the prominence of take-out pizza in hundreds of binges from my past? Maybe all of those combined. Pizza from a "pizza place" isn't my food and it will not be my food for as long as I live with continued recovery. That's just me. Maybe you can do it and be perfectly fine. I know myself well enough to know, I can't.

But for whatever reason, when I take the time, consideration, and care in making certain all ingredients are refined sugar-free, and I take the time to meticulously chop and weigh, to the gram and ounce, each ingredient, then I log it all in MyFitnessPal--it changes it for me. Now, instead of my brain categorizing it as an "indulgence," it's simply categorized as an on-plan dinner--weighed, measured, logged, refined sugar-free--and enjoyed.

Kind of a freaky thing if you ask me. Maybe I should make every April 30th Pita Pizza Day for my food plan. The last two have worked out well.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Sunday, April 29, 2018

April 29th, 2018 Quickly

April 29th, 2018 Quickly

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

This weekend has been a good one. I finished out today with mom. We made it to the store, out for chicken tacos, and managed to visit two grandkids, plus Amber and Courtney. It was a busy few hours!

I'm hitting the pillow quickly. The best thing I can do to start my week off well is getting to bed at a reasonable time on Sunday night!

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Saturday, April 28, 2018

April 28th, 2018 Locked In

April 28th, 2018 Locked In

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

I tried to sleep in later than I did, but I'm pretty certain my body has an internal timer that doesn't seem to let me get too far past seven hours in a stretch.

I was able to get some work done at the studio before enjoying a good visit with mom this afternoon. Cindy and I had a date night in my hometown. I showed her around Stillwater before we enjoyed a simple dinner out and several games of pool. It was needed. We hadn't had a date night in quite some time.



















Waiting for a table selfie at Eskimo Joes. That place was packed! We both have our individual food plans and I think Cindy would agree, the menu was slightly challenging for both of us--but we made it work!

I asked for what I needed and how I needed it! It's interesting to me how I once felt "locked in" to whatever the menu presented or however it was prepared. I was totally surprised the first time I asked for something ala carte or slightly modified and it wasn't a problem at all. I'm someone who never wanted to "be a problem" or "stand out" or "make a scene," so realizing how asking for what I need wasn't doing those things and didn't make me those things, and realizing how 99.9% of servers want to help, totally changed my approach to eating in restaurants. 

I think that it starts with a willingness and wanting to maintain the boundaries of the plan. I can remember many times when I'd use restaurant plans as an excuse to obliterate my plan. Once I realized it didn't have to be that way, I couldn't pretend like I didn't know. I could willfully ignore the truth, which I've done a lot of that over the years, too! But honestly, it kinda forced me to better accept responsibility for my own choices rather than playing the restaurant "victim card," which I gladly did for years and years.

Cindy beat me on the pool table. My goodness, she's good at pool. She won several games. I managed to take a couple (don't ask me how!)



















It was a good night!

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Friday, April 27, 2018

April 27th, 2018 Early For Me

April 27th, 2018 Early For Me

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

I'm doing well tonight. After an exceptionally long day, I'm going to bed unusually early for a Friday night, early for me! In fact, this might be some kind of Friday night record! I'm looking forward to sleeping in tomorrow morning!

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Thursday, April 26, 2018

April 26th, 2018 Immune

April 26th, 2018 Immune

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

My post last night about "The S Word," struggle, alarmed a couple of my dear support friends. It's a topic and experience I'm very familiar with, but no, by the grace of God, I'm not struggling today nor was I yesterday. I was simply sharing a perspective on struggle that's helped me in tremendous ways.

Here's the thing: I may not be struggling at the moment and I don't live in fear of the struggle, but I certainly maintain a healthy respect for the fragility of it all. I understand and appreciate how critically important it is for me to maintain the daily practice that keeps me well. And still, no matter how much appreciation and understanding is involved, I'm not immune to struggle and relapse. None of us are immune.

Keeping it fairly short tonight. It was a successful day!

Featured Tweets from today:


Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

April 25th, 2018 The S-Word

April 25th, 2018 The S-Word

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

It was a busy day--I say that a lot, I suppose, and not every day qualifies for the label, but today did. Thank you for everyone extended warm thoughts and prayers for mom's continued recovery. I'm intentionally being slightly vague about her condition because it probably isn't completely considerate of me to share every detail of her medical challenges. The good news is she's on the right medication and she's in good spirits. With good care, it's a minor and temporary thing.

I just finished a fabulous dinner with Cindy--and now, time to blog and get more sleep than last night!

But before I go, I wanted to share something...

So much of this journey we're all on requires a willingness to embrace different perspectives. The act of taking something we've always known- patterns and practices we've done, and changing our approach and the way we look at them...changes things. This taking what we've known and flipping it on its side or turning it upside down can be super challenging. In this challenge, we often run straight into "The S Word."

Not that S word. :)

I'm talking about Struggle.

Struggle isn't a moral issue, that's important because it isn't. The mental and emotional effects of struggle will try to convince us it is some kind of failure- a flaw within us... how many of us have thrown our hands up and said, "why can't I just get this right?"

I encourage you in those moments to be patient and I challenge you to change what struggle means to you. If we can change the way we look at struggle, and how we react to it, it can change everything.

Struggle is a key component in our success when we use its information to create a positive action plan.

If we didn't have struggle, we wouldn't evolve.  Struggle becomes an opportunity.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Tuesday, April 24, 2018

April 24th, 2018 Take The Photo

April 24th, 2018 Take The Photo

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.



















It was back to work for me today. I took yesterday off to accompany mom to doctor appointments. She's going through a rough time. The good news is, the nursing staff is on top of her care and she'll be fine.

Dallas from Arkansas writes: "Hey, no more food Tweets, what's up-you okay?"

Yes, Dallas, I'm doing very well! Thank you for asking. I stopped doing the daily food tweets several weeks back. It's strange, I still take the photo--(some habits are really hard to break!) I just don't Tweet it with the description.
Meals from 4/24/2018




















I do continue to log everything in MyFitnessPal. If you're on MyFitnessPal, too, send me a friend request! My MFP username is SeanAAnderson and my food diary is always set on "public."

I'm hoping we dodge the severe weather tonight. There's a chance overnight and if so, I'll be headed to work super early. I better drop in bed now while I have the opportunity!

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Monday, April 23, 2018

April 23rd, 2018 One Person Not Two

April 23rd, 2018 One Person Not Two

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

Almost eight years ago on August 28th, 2010, I found myself struggling a little bit with the dramatic transformation of appearance. The following is an excerpt. And it comes with its own excerpt... It's an excerpt from an excerpt:

I've looked at the pictures over and over, and it's strange, but I really do kind of miss that guy. 














I "get it." That guy was affected in so many different ways. Ok, I need to stop talking about my previous physical appearance like it was someone who passed away. But, in many ways, it is just like that.

I was that big for so long and my personal appearance, the morbid obesity, helped shape my personality and social behaviors. What has remained the same are my thoughts, beliefs, fears, and personal values--the stuff I know inside when I'm all alone---just me. That guy is exactly the same. I love that guy too. It all reminds me of the reaction of my now ex-sister in law when she laid eyes on me for the first time in a long time.

Wait-- I need to interrupt this excerpt--because I noticed something noteworthy. That was written nearly eight years ago. I listed the things remaining after dramatic weight loss--- Important things, for sure--thoughts, beliefs, fears and personal values. Knowing what I know now--some critical things were missing from the list. The core elements of me go far deeper. I didn't mention my likes, dislikes, passions, talents and core qualities--all of the things that contribute to personal happiness. 

No wonder I hit goal a few months after that was written--and still wasn't truly happy. I couldn't even acknowledge them--forget about nurturing these core elements.

Okay--now, let's go to the excerpt within the excerpt---this goes back to 2009:

My sister-in-law is staying the night with us. Irene has several sisters, and this one hasn't seen me in a really long time. I really don't know how to take her reaction to the much smaller me. She was shocked, I mean in total disbelief. She told me I looked great and that she was happy that I was healthier for the effort and then she did something unexpected.

She started crying. It wasn't tears of happiness, these were grieving tears. 

She was grieving the loss of the old me. She said, “My entire life you've looked the same and now that person is gone.” 

I assured her that I was still me inside. I still have all of the memories, all of the feelings, all of the humor, I'm Sean Anderson, that will never change! She kept wiping away her tears and we hugged, to which she replied: “you don't even hug the same.” 

I guess I didn't realize how much she loved me. It really touched me deeply. I love her too. Judging from her reaction, you would have thought I had died. And I explained to her that I would have died in the next five or ten years more than likely, had I stayed at over 500 pounds.

She just kept going on about it. She'll never see the old Sean again, and that just devastated her completely. It wasn't the reaction I expected at all.

It's really a swim through a giant pool of emotions when I look at my before pictures. I can absolutely relate to the feelings my sister-in-law expressed. I look at those old pictures and I feel sorry for that guy. He's gone. He'll never be back. He'll never walk into the room. He'll never walk onto that stage. That guy died a long time ago.

WAIT JUST A SECOND....

I must correct my 2010 self. I didn't die.

That guy is me. That guy didn't die, he came alive. 



















I love that guy. (and the little guy pictured here!)

He's alive and living. Not dead and gone. The opposite of dead!

My perspective has been transformed. I don't look at before pictures the same as I once did. I also don't look at "now" pictures the same.

I look at "Before" and "Now" pictures with a perspective focused on the core elements of me. I see one person. Not two.

It feels great to be transformed and live life at a healthier weight, for sure. And I hold my recovery tight because I value the benefits of the healthier weight. But...

My happiness is no longer found in external sources. My happiness is found and was always available for discovery, in the core elements of me. 505-pound me back then, and healthy body-weight me, today--same person, same core elements and the same opportunity for happiness.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Sunday, April 22, 2018

April 22nd, 2018 If I Do

April 22nd, 2018 If I Do

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

My grandson Oliver turned one year old last Wednesday. Today was the day we all gathered to celebrate his birthday! It was a very special day spent with both my daughters and all four grandkids. I picked up mom on the way to the party, too--and she had a great time as well.

It's special days like today that serve as reminders for so many blessings. I'm grateful!

I picked up the birthday cake at the bakery. It was on my way and saved Courtney a trip, so I was happy to do it. Walking into a bakery area surrounded by things that are in no way, shape, or form on my food plan might sound challenging. First, my abstinence from refined sugar comes with a deep understanding of the reasons why it's important for me to continue my refined sugar-free embrace. Instead of challenging, I'd call it affirming because part of my defense mechanism is to immediately think about the good that has come from the last four years without refined sugar. I don't live in fear of relapse, I live with enormous respect for the knowledge that relapse is always one choice away-- and plenty of those choices were all around me in that bakery area of the store. What's helped most for me, is a shift in perspective-- a reframing, so instead of looking at these as things I can't have, these are things I choose not to eat because I'm thoroughly convinced of what happens next if I do. If I hadn't lived through proof of what happens next, I'm not sure I'd be so convinced. For me, the effects of eating refined sugar aren't a theory, it's fact.

If my brain ever needs reconvincing, I have plenty of support connections to help me reconnect and realign my thinking.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Crazy things you never knew about Martha Stewart

Everyone knows the prim and proper Martha Stewart from her television shows featuring DIY crafts and oh-so-delicious recipes, but what else do you know about her? Of course we're all aware that she's a super successful businesswoman, a lifestyle maven, a cookbook author, a mom and grandma, a curator of all "good things," and — though this probably isn't how she'd like to be remembered— a former inmate.
But did you know that she's also a cougar? Yep, you heard that right. Martha's got a thing for younger men. And you know what else? She's hilarious. Click on any interview of hers and settle in for a good time. Chances are she'll surprise you with a sense of humor you haven't been privy too on The Martha Stewart Show. Does that mean she's down to play "Shag, Marry, Kill"? You bet she is. How about "Never Have I Ever"? Yep, and it's as amazing as you'd hope it would be.

So what else don't you know about your favorite entertaining guru? Buckle up… your opinion of Martha Stewart might change with all this new information, but we're willing to bet it will be for the better.

She knows what sexting is, and she's done it

While a game of "Never Have I Ever" might seem a bit outside of Martha Stewart's norm — it is typically a drinking game, after all — she had no problem wielding an "I Have/I Have Never" paddle during an appearance on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. The talk show host asked Stewart, along with Anna Kendrick and Snoop Dogg, some prying questions, and her answers were both surprising and hilarious.

Looking completely at ease, Stewart held up her "I Have" paddle when the group was asked if they'd ever sexted. When DeGeneres questioned if she really knew what sexting was, Stewart rolled her eyes and responded, "I have used technology for a lot longer than you have, Ellen." When pushed for details on exactly who she was sexting, she spun the paddle around saying, "It doesn't say 'none of your business' here."

What else did we learn? She's never been in handcuffs (despite that prison stint), she's never been stoned on a talk show (but shocker… Snoop has), she's never returned something to a store after wearing it (duh, it's Martha Stewart), she's been to a nude beach (Sand Beach on St. Bart's, to be exact), she's never drunk-dialed an ex (but maybe she's sexted one?), and she copped to using her fame to get her out of trouble (wouldn't you?).

Her dog landed her in the hospital

Take a scroll through Martha Stewart's Instagram and it becomes abundantly clear that she loves animals. She's amassed quite a menagerie: three cats, five dogs, 30 red-factor canaries (who live in her dining room… no big deal), horses, chickens, and probably a partridge in a pear tree. But, as Stewart learned, even with so much experience as a pet owner, accidents can still happen.


Returning home from a trip, she was excited to greet her French bulldogs before heading out again — but one of her sleeping pups was caught off guard. "My little dogs were all a little upset with me — they had been lonely — and it was dark in the kitchen and they were asleep and I wanted to say goodbye to the them," she explained. "As I leaned down to whisper goodbye to a dozing Francesca, I must have startled her, because she bolted upright with such force that she hit me in the face like a boxing glove hitting an opponent's face." Ouch. The incident resulted in a trip to the emergency room and nine stitches to Stewart's lip. But like any loving mom, she felt no resentment towards her fur baby, tweeting, "So many great comments on @themarthablog asking how I am, but also asking how Francesca feels — she is a lovely frenchie — I startled her!"

Her friendship with Snoop Dogg will make you jealous

In 2008 Martha Stewart invited Snoop Dogg on her show to make mashed potatoes, and it was immediately obvious that the world needed more of the dynamic duo. Stewart herself seemed to agree during her 2014 Reddit AMA, saying that she wished she and Snoop were better friends. Well, we all got what we wanted, because the friendship between these two is now a sight to behold.

Thanks to VH1's Martha & Snoop's Potluck Dinner Party, we've gotten a good glimpse into their relationship, and honestly, it's #squadgoals. However unlikely it might seem, their affection towards each other is evident. Talking to Town & Country, Stewart said of Snoop Dogg, "He has an intense sense of loyalty to the people he works with, to his friends — he has an amazing number of friends. He stands up for what he believes really strongly." And Snoop has nothing but good things to say of Stewart. According to AARP, he said, "I've never met anyone like Martha Stewart. When we come together, it's a natural combination of love, peace and harmony… If you hang out with her and chill with her, she just like anybody else."

But don't assume that they do everything together. Snoop put those rumors to bed, saying, "I ain't never smoked [marijuana] with Martha. I've smoked around her, but she don't partake." Stewart agreed, saying, "The moment I signed the contract, I vowed to never, ever step into [his] trailer."

Read More

Saturday, April 21, 2018

April 21st, 2018 Super Short

April 21st, 2018 Super Short

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

Tweets only tonight...Oh wait, I don't do that anymore!! Still... Taking a little break.

Keeping it super short tonight. It's been a good day.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Friday, April 20, 2018

April 20th, 2018 Unless You're Training For The Olympics

April 20th, 2018 Unless You're Training For The Olympics

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

Some notes from a good day- It was a very short night of rest before a longer than expected work day. I made sure to make a late afternoon nap important. My two grandsons, Noah and Oliver stopped by on their way to the carnival. Noah was super excited! Noah's enthusiasm for life is incredibly inspiring--everything is exciting to him! I attended and made the opening announcements for a concert hosted by our local arts and humanities board of directors, of which I'm a member. I dined out alone this evening--it was chicken tacos at my favorite Mexican place, grabbed a few things at Walmart and enjoyed a nice visit with mom. Actor James Marsden was on the Late Show with Stephen Colbert. Mom was super excited because Mr. Marsden's hometown is ours--and Colbert made the segment all about Stillwater. It was very cool!

One of the questions I'm asked quite often: Should I add extra calories to my daily budget in consideration for exercise calories burned?

I don't recommend adding calories to your budget for exercise unless you're training for the Olympics or for a marathon or something else that requires intensive training.

The most important thing is maintaining the integrity of your calorie budget. If you violate your budget in exchange for exercise, then you run the risk of stunting the growth and evolution of your food plan. You also set yourself up for a constant tug of war between food and exercise. Adding calories in exchange for exercise calories burned is a recipe for making this process miserable. 

The only exception is if your exercise calories burned brings your net calories below 1,200-- in that case, it's a good idea to add at least enough to bring you to 1,200 net. If you're eating a generous 1,800 calorie budget and you burned 700 calories, your net calories check in at 1,100. Instead of adding back hundreds of extra calories, add 100 to bring your net to a minimum of 1,200.

By the way, this isn't my formula or creation--I learned this from several different nutrition and fitness experts. The opinion isn't just mine. MFP does calorie budget calculations that ultimately confuse many people. My best advice: Ignore the suggested "adjustments" and maintain your budget.

Micheal Phelps eats 10,000 calories a day when he's training. But he's in the pool 8-10 hours swimming.

Can you see how, if you're allowed to violate your budget by adding more exercise, then the way to keep eating compulsively is to simply exercise more and more? When we do that, we're trying to find an out- a way to justify eating more than we need... and again, the result is, the perspective gets wonky- and the food plan never develops- never evolves, because it doesn't have to. It's here where we run the risk of falling into an over-exercising routine--and the biggest: We end up stunting our growth in the non-food/non-exercise areas because if we're able to constantly and consistently violate our calorie budget, we haven't a reason to develop accountability and support measures that are designed to help us practice a plan that doesn't involve compulsively over-eating.

This process is about changing perspectives and patterns of the past.

If the old perspectives and patterns brought us here, then clearly we must be willing to shift them if we want different results.

Today's featured Tweet:




Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Eyeliner mistakes you're probably making

Eyeliner is basically the Holy Grail of beauty products. You don't have to be a master of makeup to use it, and all it takes is a little dab on each eye to feel put-together and ready to conquer the day. While eyeliner seems self-explanatory, there's actually a science to its application. Whether you're a liquid liner aficionado or prefer the tried-and-true pencil, here are 10 of the most common eyeliner mistakes (and how to avoid them).


You're looking straight into a mirror

You'd have to be some type of wizard to apply eyeliner without looking into a mirror and still manage to look like a normal human being. However, looking straight into a mirror can lead to uneven application, like gaps between your eyeliner and your lash line. To avoid this mishap, celebrity makeup artist and founder of Surratt Beauty, Troy Surratt, told Health that it's best to look down while you're lining your top lid. According to Lori Lieb, creative director for Bodyography Professional Cosmetics, this will ensure "your liner is as close to the lashes as possible."


You're tugging on your skin while applying

When you're applying eyeliner, you want to get the straightest, most precise line possible. In theory, it makes sense to pull your skin tight to make sure you don't hit any bumps or miss any spots along the lash line. However, this is problematic for a couple of reasons. For one, Glamsquad's director of makeup artistry, Kelli Bartlett, told Stylecaster that tugging at the thin skin around your eyes can actually make them prematurely saggy (and no one wants that). Secondly, "when you pull and then release your eye, it bounces back — and your eyeliner does, too. This can create bumpiness, texture, and that dreaded check-mark shape hanging off the eye," Lijha Stewart, makeup artist and director of artistry at Make Up for Ever, explained to Glamour. While pulling at your eyes might be a tough habit to break, it's worth it! In a YouTube video, makeup artist and vlogger Tina Yong suggests "lifting your head up slightly when you're applying your liner" as you look downward toward your mirror.


Your eye pencil isn't sharp enough

The most frustrating part about pencil liners is their affinity to get dull after only a couple of uses, especially when you're in a rush and don't have the time to prolong your makeup routine (which, let's be honest, is all the time). But a sharp pencil is key to having a clean, professional look. In a YouTube video, makeup artist and vlogger Tina Yong said, "Having a blunt pencil can make it really hard to draw precise lines." To ensure your eye pencil is sharp enough and your eye makeup is spot on every time, Rimmel Canadian makeup artist and spokesperson Vanessa Jarman told Elle Canada, "Simply keep a pencil sharpener in your bag and make a habit of sharpening your pencil as need be," which is typically "every 2-3 makeup applications."

A dull pencil isn't only harmful to a perfect look, but also to your health. Makeup is a hub for germs and bacteria. Each time you use your eyeliner, you're adding more bacteria to the mix. A study found that particles from your eyeliner gets into your eye with each use, meaning all that yucky stuff is entering your system. But when you sharpen your eye pencil, you remove some of that nasty bacteria.

You're applying too much liner on your bottom eyelid

It's natural to want to line your whole eye. It makes your look feel more complete and balanced. While lining your entire top lid is fine, bringing it all the way around your bottom lid will "close up your eyes and make them look smaller," according to makeup artist and beauty vlogger Tina Yong. In fact, this is a huge pet peeve for most makeup artists. Sonia Kashuk, celebrity makeup artist and founder of the Sonia Kashuk Collection for Target, told Prevention, "It looks very dated, hard, and incredibly severe."

To avoid shrinking the appearance of your eyes, Yong suggests you "just tight-line your upper lash line" to "make your lash line look fuller." If you absolutely need to add some color to your bottom lid, in an interview with Health.com celebrity makeup artist Troy Surratt suggested applying "a short stroke of color along the outer corner under your lower lashes."


Not lining your waterline

The topic of using eyeliner along your waterline (the bare skin between your lashes and your eyeball) is debated among health experts and beauty experts. While it's possible that bacteria from your eyeliner can contaminate your eye and cause infection, it's a seamless way to complete your look. Celebrity makeup artist Sonia Kashuk told Prevention that using a light or nude color along your waterline helps "create a healthier look." Likewise, makeup artist and beauty vlogger Toni Yong believes adding eyeliner to your waterline can help make your eyes look bigger.

Read More

Thursday, April 19, 2018

April 19th, 2018 Don't Be Afraid To Ask

April 19th, 2018 Don't Be Afraid To Ask

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I exceeded my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

I attended the Oklahoma Association of Broadcasters welcome dinner last night in Tulsa. I didn't know what would be served but I do know my boundaries. I made sure I had a backup plan in the car--some apple slices, a banana, almonds, and cheese.  I visited with several acquaintances, a few people I worked with a very long time ago, and other people I see at this event each year I've attended. About twenty minutes before dinner was to be served, I made my way over to the hotel ballroom buffet line to check out the offerings. I could tell right away--the entrees contained refined sugar. It's a non-negotiable of mine, I don't do it, period. I asked the person preparing the display and he checked and confirmed, yes--I was correct. I asked if it was possible to get something else--and it was without hesitation, "no problem at all."

The chef prepared a simple top sirloin for me. It was perfect. And not one single person around me noticed. Bill (owner of the company I work for) knew because he knows me and asked about it, but nobody else. I share this because it's an example of something important when dining out or at special events like this: Don't be afraid to ask for what you need! 

I can't count the number of times I've said, "Oh well, this is what I have to choose from, so I'll make the best of it--" even if it went against my food plan. If the food tonight would have fit the boundaries of my plan-- in this case, prepared without sugar, then I could have and would have made the meal work. It didn't so I made the special request and it wasn't a problem at all. If it wouldn't have been possible, I would have waited for plan B in the car.

I must always give my plan this level of importance. It's up to me to practice it each day. Tonight's event was good practice.

The almonds, cheese stick, and some apple slices became my "last food of day/drive home snack" food, finishing off today's maintenance calorie budget.

I'm upset with myself for not taking a day off tomorrow.

I'm up way too late for work in the morning. Hopefully I can take some time off early tomorrow-- certainly hoping it works out that way!

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Beauty 'mistakes' that aren't actually mistakes at all

Makeup mistakes happen every day, even to the most seasoned beauty veterans. Smudges, smears, or smashed products are cold, hard facts of the cosmetics life. But you don't actually need to grab your micellar water or a makeup remover wipe to take it all off and start over every time you experience a product application fail.


In fact, with a little creativity, imagination, and ingenuity, as well as some additional tools, like cotton swabs, your makeup flubs may not actually be mistakes after all! Here are some creative tips from the experts on how you can turn your beauty and makeup "mistakes" into total wins.

Buying the wrong color

Celebrity makeup artist Nikki Allure, who has worked with superstar Cardi B, has a great fix for those times when you have purchased the wrong shade of contour, foundation, or concealer. If you shop online and pick a hue that ends up being too dark, too light, or not bright enough, don't go through the hassle of sending it back or worse — letting it sit at the bottom of your makeup drawer, untouched, unused, and a waste of cash. She tells me, "I use [those] for different things, such as an eyeshadow base."

That's a brilliant reversal of function. A contour cream or concealer can act as an eyelid primer or a base, helping your powder shadow last all night. It can also turn up or tone down the shadow color placed over top.

Smudged mascara

Have you ever applied mascara to your lower lashes in order to darken and thicken them, only to end up with smudges on the delicate skin right beneath your eye? Don't fret or wipe it away, which could amplify the mess. Instead, makeup artist Mindy Green recommends that you "grab a cotton swab to blend it and call it liner." That way, you don't waste product and enjoy the added benefit of a sultry eye look. A little under-eye smudge is totally mysterious and unexpected, giving you that good-girl-gone-bad vibe.

Samantha Agostino, lead makeup artist at ECRU New York Beauty, has a similar solution for lower lash smudges, telling me, "Mascara can be a dupe for a wet liner to create a smoky effect on the bottom lashline; just use an angled brush to load up product from the wand."


Broken powder products

So you dropped a powder eyeshadow or a highlighter compact and the product itself is cracked, yet most of the powder still remains in the pan — we've all been there. Don't allow that compact to sink to the bottom of the abyss that is your makeup bag or purse, but also don't cut your losses and toss it! It is salvageable. Green says, "Add broken eyeshadow [dust] to a clear lip gloss to create your own heavily pigmented gloss."

But wait, there's an even better suggestion. Green notes, "If you've lost [or broken] a few, you can blend shades to make a custom color." There is no such thing as wasted makeup with this hack.

Using too much translucent powder

If you think you've used too much translucent powder on your face, think again. The product exists to add luminescence and it's really hard to overdo it. Plus, your fluffy brush is your BFF, since it can further diffuse the product if it's not giving you the end result you want. Stylist and makeup artist Liz Everett tells me, "I don't know if you can actually use too much, because you are solidifying the finish. As long as you do a great job of sweeping it gently with your brush after, you are all good."

Hillary Kline, a freelance makeup artist in Minneapolis, has another tip for when you may need to neutralize the face powder. "Use a setting spray that has a dewy finish to it and won't make your face look dry," she tells me.

Using too much lip liner

Lip liner isn't just a tool for creating a precise, perfectly shaped lip a la Kylie Jenner. It's also a secret weapon that helps lipstick, no matter the texture, adhere all day. If you are tracing the perimeter of your mouth and find yourself using too much color or drawing imperfect lines, just go with it. In fact, Everett recommends filling in the surface of your entire lip with liner "so that your lipstick or gloss will last longer."

It's the exact same concept as an eyeshadow base — liner assists lipstick in staying put and intensifies the color that's layered on top of it.

Mixing foundation with your primer

A full face of makeup has a running order of which products to apply and when. Primer usually goes first, giving you a flawless canvas on which to add concealer, liquid foundation and/or powder, and contour. Usually, a primer is applied prior to foundation, adding an extra layer of moisture and ensuring that makeup stays on longer. However, if you somehow mix your primer and foundation, it's totally okay. The team at The London School of Make-Up, says, "By mixing your foundation with some primer, you can achieve a more translucent look, which helps your makeup to blend perfectly in with your primer."

This leads to a softer focus visage and creates a natural look. You retain the coverage your foundation provides, without looking like you've slathered on a metric ton of product. It's all about light and light.

Eyeshadow fallout

Makeup artist Emilie Rudman, who launched the Emilie Heathe line and runs the MLE STUDIO, has brilliant solution for repurposing eyeshadow fallout. You know what we're talking about: "You've just added your favorite shimmer shadow to your lid with your favorite soft brush, but in the process are left with a ton of shadow all over your face," she says, recounting a makeup situation we've all experienced. But it's not the end of the world. Rudman continues, "Take a soft face brush or your finger and blend this shadow right above the cheek bone and use it as a highlighter."

Obviously, this technique only works with light and shimmery shades. You can't employ the same trick with dark, matte shadows or you will be left with a sooty mess on your face.


You didn't pack enough products

If you are traveling and were forced to pack efficiently due to TSA regulations, and inexplicably forgot your favorite eyeshadow palette, there is no need to head to the drugstore to spend more money on the same products you left at home.

If you have smartly packed other products, like face powder, they can multi-task in your favor. Rudman says, "Your face powder can also be used as a shadow, but also as a shadow base. This will prevent liner from bleeding, mascara from transferring, and cover those dark spots."

Broken concealer

Makeup artist and Pretty Girl Makeup CEO Christina Flach has a terrific tip for salvaging broken or smashed powder and cream products, which can be expensive, and therefore it's extra frustrating when they end up broken. But never fear! They are not unusable. "Utilize containers, adding some broken powder with bronzer to make the perfect light bronzing powder that also will take the shine off while giving a bit of color during the winter season," she tells me.

But what can be done to reuse a broken concealer stick? Flach says what's leftover can be "added to a bit of your favorite moisturizer for a fabulous hydrating under eye cream."

Going overboard on brows

If you overdid it with your eyebrows, added too much powder or created a little too much definition with a kohl pencil, you don't actually need to wash your whole face and start over. You can easily tone down an overdone brow with this time-saving method. Kline suggests that you "take a makeup sponge, apply a little bit of makeup remover to it, and dab over the brows. It will lower the intensity of your brow." Toning things down is easy, as long as you are careful with both your tools and your technique.


Unwashed brushes

Neglecting to wash your makeup brushes every couple of weeks or so is a really bad habit. However, if you simply haven't had the chance to clean your tools, it can have a positive benefit, as long as you don't do it too often!

Ami Mallon, who serves as Global Corporate Educator for Osmosis Colour Mineral Cosmetics, tells me, "Even the most germ-phobic of us can have moments where we forget to wash our brushes. The good news? If you are in a hurry, the makeup of yesterday can be the makeup of today, as well! A dirty eyeshadow, blush, or foundation brush can mean today's beautiful recycled look."

Basically, the leftover color on the hairs can be used to create a light, easy wash of color on your lids or cheeks. It's literally "next day" makeup.

Smudged winged eyeliner

The cat-eye flick is hard to master, even for makeup vets. There are tons of products (felt tip pens, angled brushes paired with gel pots, the Vamp Stamp) available to help achieve that perfect wing. Drawing a wing can be frustrating and is often a bust, but don't be deterred.

Emaneula DeFalco, founder of Dirty Little Secret Cosmetics, tells me, "Not every wing needs to be sharp enough to cut your ex-boyfriend. A smudged liner can bring a sexy sultry look without having to do a complete smokey eye."

To get this look, DeFalco says, "Just take a gel liner and literally smudge it out with a brush or your finger. If anyone asks why your wing isn't sharp, tell them they can't sit with you." #Burn

Her larger point is more important — it's totally okay to seek a not-so-sharp or unpredictable wing.

From:TheList

This is how much the royal wedding will cost

Royal weddings don't come cheap. Prince William and Kate Middleton's big day, for example, carried a hefty price tag of $34 million, US Weekly reported. Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's estimated wedding expenses have not been confirmed by Kensington Palace — that would be quite garish.
Nevertheless, the royal family issued a statement clearing up the matter of who exactly foots the gigantic bill — British taxpayers can rest easy knowing it's not them. "The Royal Family will pay for the core aspects of the wedding, such as the church service, the associated music, flowers, decorations, and the reception afterwards," the statement read.

Bridebook, United Kingdom's number one wedding planning website, has done the dirty work of counting costs. By analyzing over 170,000 weddings and reviewing 70,000 wedding industry suppliers' price estimates, the site discovered the estimated costs of "core aspects" of the next royal wedding. According to their extensive calculations, they theorized the big day to cost £32 million ($45 million). A significant chunk — over $42 million — is expected to go toward security costs. What about the other $2.7 million? Keep reading, and get ready for the most glamorous math you've ever seen!

The seemingly simple invitations

Harry and Meghan's invitations were fairly traditional as far as wedding stationery goes. However, don't make the mistake of thinking traditional equates to affordable. Kensington Palace shared a photo of the royal invitations, naming the company who created them, Barnard and Westwood, and included a brief description: "They feature the Three-Feathered Badge of the Prince of Wales printed in gold ink."

Although Bridebook originally estimated the cost of stationery to be around $28,000, that figure is likely higher — much higher. This is because the couple opted to use Barnard and Westwood, which sells 200 piece bespoke stationery sets exceeding $14,000. Then, after you add in the "Three-Feathered Badge of the Prince of Wales" with gold ink for all 4,000 guests and the cost easily skyrockets to around $281,000. The VIP invitations alone (sans gold embellishments) are estimated to cost $70,000 or more.

Compare that to the average cost of wedding stationery, which is around $750 for 150 guests according to theweddingreport.com (via Brides). You certainly can't classify Harry and Meghan's invitations as a good bargain.


Those venues, though

The venue is an important part of any wedding. Unlike "regular" people, Harry and Meghan don't have to enter their names on waitlists or put down a security deposit. That's not to say the ceremony and reception are free — no way.

Harry and Meghan will say "I do" at St. George's Chapel at Windsor Castle, as confirmed by Kensington Palace. To do so, they will have to pay a fee of $245 — chump change for this royal couple. The receptions — yes, multiple — are going to cost quite a bit more. A statement issued by Kensington Palace announced that the first reception will be held in the Great Hall of St. George's Chapel. Afterward, the couple will have "a private evening reception" for friends and family, a secondary statement confirmed.

Bridebook gave estimates for reception costs if the couple were to choose a "luxury marquee," or tent, in the Upper Ward of Windsor. If Harry and Meghan opt for a glass marquee as Pippa Middleton did, the cost could easily exceed $421,000. Add the costs of catering, additional security, and marquee staff, and you've easily tacked on another $70,000 — at least.

From lighting to dance floors — the decoration expenses

Decorating a massive estate like Windsor Castle is no easy — or affordable — feat. According to The Telegraph, the Lord Chamberlain's Office at Buckingham Palace has the task of organizing royal weddings. Harry's private secretary, Edward Lane Fox, helps in the organizing as well. Together, they oversaw the production and sending of the royal wedding invitations. They will also oversee the nuptials, the overall schedule of the big day, and the royal household staff.

Although Lord Chamberlain's Office and Edward Lane Fox are responsible for a whole lot regarding the upcoming wedding, that doesn't necessarily mean they have to do everything themselves. That may very well be impossible — even for people as skilled at planning weddings as these folks. Bridebook contends that a top London agency, like HRP Production Solutions, could be tasked with everything from lighting to furniture to even dance floors. The cost? Oh, just about $182,000. NBD.


The cost of catering

What's a beautiful wedding without great food? Guests at Harry and Meghan's wedding likely won't have to choose between chicken, beef, or fish. In addition to having a dinner reception, a statement issued by Kensington Palace confirmed there will also be a lunch reception. According to Bridebook, members of the public who are invited to Windsor Castle — all 2,640 of them — will also be served "a hot tea and a snack." At just $14 a head, even the snacks add up.

Not to mention, hiring the best of the best caterers in London will easily up the total. With rates of about $140 per guest for lunch and up to around $420 per guest for dinner, the catering costs for this wedding are going to be nothing short of astounding. If you dream to plan a similar wedding someday, just know you'll need to save around $400,000 — just for food.

All that booze adds up

Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's wedding will not be a dry one, Bridebook says, which makes sense considering Buckingham Palace is home to an epic seven-room wine cellar. The 300-year-old cellar was completely renovated in 2007 and, according to The Telegraph, its contents are estimated to be worth $2.8 million.

Likely 1,700 bottles of "vintage champagne" and 650 bottles of wine and spirits will be sufficient for Harry and Meghan's wedding guests. The champagne alone will run about $191,000. The addition of wine, scotch, other spirits, and mixed drinks bring the grand total to $271,000. To put that figure into perspective, the cost of supplying Harry and Meghan's invitees with booze — and booze alone — is roughly ten times the cost of an entire average American wedding. Though, the average American also doesn't serve vintage champagne… at their royal wedding… to thousands of guests.

Read More

Wednesday, April 18, 2018

April 18th, 2018 This Blog

April 18th, 2018 This Blog

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

Tonight, we're taking a time-traveling trip back to July 2010, right after the AOL feature came out:

Over the last week, I've received hundreds of messages from all over the world. Some simply say "congratulations," others tell me about their success story, and then there are some that hit me hard---right in the heart. Every message, every e-mail, every comment---they're very important to me, and I want you to know that. I've had to forgive myself for not being able to personally respond to every single one in a timely manner like I've done throughout this journey. I've never had to worry about this, and trust me--I'm not complaining, I'm just stressing out...filled with anxiety because I feel like I owe you for all the wonderful support you give me. Please don't ever stop sending them, just give me your patience---and I'll do my best. That's all I can do.

The main purpose of this blog was and still is, to keep me accountable and on track, to help me fully understand my addiction to food, and to help me dig deep--in a quest to unravel the secret of successful weight loss. The job of this blog was and still is, to help me understand the mental aspects and help me uncover the emotional and deeply personal issues that I've allowed to hold me back.

This blog has also taught me where I always went wrong in my repeated attempts to lose weight over the years. This blog is extremely important to me. Yes, I've invested a bunch of time in writing...anywhere from one to three hours a day, every day of this journey---but really...think about the transformation---and I'm not talking about the physical, I'm talking about the "inside" stuff. When I think about the positive effect these writings have had on me---there's no question, it's been worth every minute of my time.

As I write this Wednesday edition, it's actually late Thursday night. This is officially the latest I've ever posted, but I got busy...it happens, especially these days. I feel anxiety when I'm late with a post, I do. I think of the people that tell me they read every day and how much they look forward to reading---and I imagine what they're thinking...Sean's late! What's the deal? The reality is far different than my anxiety filled perception would have me believe---and then I calm myself by remembering...As much as I love it when someone tells me how this blog has helped them, it's still for me. I write for me---it's what I need, and I hope you write that way as well.

It's self-therapy, my friend. Even if you don't publish it on the world wide web---just write it out, get it out of you---and learn from what you find. This blog had less than 10 followers well past day 200---and I'm proud to say, the content and intent hasn't changed---and it will never change.
---------------------
Nearly ten years in and this blog is still serving its original purpose. It helps keep me well--even on a night like this when it's late and I republish from the archives.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

What really happens to your body when you stop drinking alcohol?

There are plenty of reasons to quit drinking alcohol. Perhaps you can't party as hard as you once did, and the hangovers are getting worse. Maybe you've developed a beer belly. Possibly, there's a deeper issue at play and you don't want your drinking to get out of hand before it's a problem—unless it already is and you just don't realize it. Whatever your circumstances are, you're here, and you're ready to kick the sauce. Let's breakdown what happens to your body once you quit drinking.



Detox isn't pretty

The first 48 hours after you stop drinking may be the biggest detox hurdle. Depending how much you were drinking, this may feel like a hangover or it may be more than that. Withdrawal symptoms can include sweating, a rise in blood pressure, shakiness or tremors, and insomnia as well as the usual hangover symptoms like headache and nausea.


You'll crave alcohol

You probably saw that one coming. If you've been drinking alcohol regularly, your body is going to take note when it's gone. According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, cravings are to be expected when your drinking behavior changes. The equilibrium your body created to adjust to alcohol in your system will no longer exist. That first day you go without a drink, especially if you've been drinking every day, is likely going to be filled with cravings for alcohol. For some, cravings can last weeks, months, or years depending on the amount and regularity of alcohol use prior to quitting.

It may get worse before it gets better

If you are a heavy drinker, you may not be out of the woods after 48 hours. Between 48-72 hours is generally when the onset of 'delirium tremens' occurs for some. Delirium tremens is sudden confusion that may be paired with hallucinations, shaking, irregular heart rate, and an increase in body temperature so high that it can sometimes lead to seizures. If you are a heavy drinker, it is important to detox from alcohol under the supervision of a medical professional as the withdrawal from quitting cold turkey can lead to death.

Physical symptoms will subside

While hangover and withdrawal symptoms can be uncomfortable, and at times dangerous, the good news is that after peaking at around 72 hours after the last drink, the last of these symptoms will generally start to subside. At this stage your body begins to create a new equilibrium that does not include alcohol and its effects

Other symptoms of detox last longer

While your body will have adjusted after a week of not drinking, there may be psychological effects of detox that last longer. Some people report feelings of anger and aggression, general anxiety and depression, nightmares and difficulty sleeping, and even decreased libido. This is in part because alcohol use affects neurotransmitters that are implicated in mood, such as serotonin. There may also be underlying issues for which alcohol has been used to self-medicate. Often the experiences and emotions that were being ignored during alcohol use rise to the surface after you stop drinking. During this time it can be helpful to seek out counseling, either individual or in a group, to handle these emotions and experiences.

Read More

Tuesday, April 17, 2018

April 17th, 2018 Just Information

April 17th, 2018 Just Information

Today: I maintained the integrity of my maintenance calorie budget, I remained refined sugar-free, I met my daily water goal, and I stayed well connected with good support.

That first "today" part is something I take very seriously. I put it first because everything I do starts with the daily practice that keeps me well. 

Where you are is providing valuable information you can use in the development of your plan. If things are going well, what's working? If you're struggling, what are your biggest barriers? 

Answering these questions challenge us to give the elements of our plan the focus they need to thrive. And sometimes it's half & half (and I'm not talking about coffee- although that sounds good right about now).

Take me, for example: What's working well: My food plan and commitment to staying connected with support, my daily practice, and the willingness to maintain a hold on these rails I've created in my plan. 

Where I struggle: Getting enough rest and creating a doable exercise schedule/routine. No shame around here- just information. Now, I have a choice. I can either beat myself up for the elements challenging me, I can rationalize them into oblivion until I feel justified for my inaction, or I can create an action plan that isn't afraid to start as small and simple as it needs, with the goal being consistency, not intensity.

I'm choosing the latter.

Thank you for reading and your continued support,
Strength,
Sean

Best Philly Cheese Steak Grilled Cheese



Philly Cheese Steak Grilled Cheese
Author: 
Recipe type: Sandwich
Cuisine: American
Prep time:  
Cook time:  
Total time:  
Serves: 1
Juicy steak, savoury onions, green peppers, smothered in melted provolone makes this a grilled cheese to die for!
Ingredients
  • 1 tbsp olive oil
  • 3-4 slices of white onion (about ⅓ cup)
  • 8-10 thin slices of green bell pepper
  • 1 clove of garlic (minced)
  • ⅓ cup (heaping) of thinly sliced steak
  • salt & pepper to taste
  • 4 Slices of provolone
  • mayo
  • 2 slices of french bread
  • butter

Instructions
  1. In a pan on medium heat, add olive oil.
  2. Slice onion, and chop slices in half, adding to pan once heated.
  3. Once the onions begin to soften (after about 5 minutes), add sliced green pepper, and minced garlic, cooking for about two minutes.
  4. Add in sliced steak, along with salt & pepper to taste.
  5. Cook until steak is done to your liking (should only take a few minutes). Add more salt & pepper if necessary.
  6. Spread butter on the outside of each slice of bread, spread mayonnaise on the inside of both slices.
  7. Place steak mix on bread, top with provolone cheese and bread.
  8. Place in pan, turn heat to medium, cooking until golden brown on each side.